Begin with the basics
An obituary is a written notice and remembrance. A eulogy is usually spoken at a gathering. They can share the same memories, but they do not need to be identical.
For an obituary, gather the name the person used, dates the family wishes to share, places they called home, important relationships, and a few meaningful interests or experiences. Verify spelling and dates with someone who knows the family.
Make room for the person
Think of a familiar saying, a favorite routine, a kindness, or a story that captures their character. Specific, everyday details often say more than a long list of achievements.
For a eulogy, choose one or two memories and a simple closing thought. Ask the organizer how much speaking time is available, read your draft aloud, and bring a printed copy. It is fine to pause or ask someone else to read for you.
A simple starting outline
Introduce the person and the relationships that mattered to them. Share a few parts of their life, then a memory or quality you want others to remember. Close with confirmed gathering details or the family’s preferred way to honor them.
You may keep the remembrance brief. There is no obligation to explain the cause of death, describe every relationship, or make a private loss public.
Review before sharing
Ask the family to approve the final wording, photograph, service details and any donation instructions. Publish only information they want shared. Avoid home addresses, identity numbers and private contact details.
Check whether a gathering is public or private before including its location. Confirm any charity name and link directly with the organization. Keep a copy of the approved version.